V Day Syndrome
A woman should wear red on a first date, red symbolizes passion, romance and it instantly makes you more attractive to your date. |
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Okay, now I do not want to put a negative atmosphere on Valentines day however it is the one day of the year when it is either fantastic, as you are spending it with the one you love, or complete torture as you are single and it is a choice of going out with your single girlfriends/boyfriends, or staying in watching soppy love films on the tv and eating as much rubbish as possible. Well here is my guide on how to get over that.
The Lover’s Guide To V Day
Valentines Day is all about red. I once read an article which explained that a woman should wear something red when on a first date as red symbolizes passion, romance and it instantly makes you more attractive to your date. Little black dresses are important but it is a necessity that every woman should own one red dress! If you do not have that perfect “Sherry Baby” red dress then simply do red nails (always remember matching toes and nails are essential if you are opting to wear open toe heels!) or red lingerie which can slightly be seen under a black blouse or dress but do not forget leave something to the imagination! Red lips can look seductive if you are not planning on kissing your date but if you are, leave it off. There is nothing worse than red lipstick smeared all over your face so choose a good nude lipstick (gloss is always too sticky). One of the most important items a girl should have is expensive perfume; you could have a £10 dress on yet feel a million dollars just with a few sprays of Chanel! I always make sure I have the matching body lotion just because it gives you that extra feel good factor on your skin. Stockings and suspenders are a good way to tantalize your partner, whether you will be holding out on the date or not. If you are not comfortable with wearing a dress, a good pair of jeans or trousers with a corset (good for suppressing your appetite but if you are not used to wearing them they can be uncomfortable and it is the worse feeling you can have on a date). Also a sheer blouse is always a good option with a classic pair of pants….very Coco Chanel!
When dining, enjoy your food……good food is like good sex, satisfying and memorable. Ladies there is no need to just order a salad, if you want a special evening order exactly what you want (within moderation) the same for alcohol…...they are both meant to be enjoyed and to enhance your Valentine’s experience. One rule for Valentines, definitely order a dessert to share! Naughty conversation in a crowded dining room is amazing to play, it is the thrill of someone over hearing you, like the adrenaline rush of getting caught doing something you should not be doing, so do not be afraid to try it and your partner will definitely get hot and bothered by sex talk, especially when they can not do anything about it!
In the bedroom, soft lighting, scented candles all add to the Valentines atmosphere. When enticing your lover kissing is the best way forward. Kisses are an incredibly personal trait, everyone does it differently yet it is a very intimate act, some say more so than actual intercourse. Foreplay is also essential..…nobody wants to just get down to the business, that is the biggest turn off. Valentines Day is the one day to try out each others fantasies (something you can discuss earlier in the evening over diner!). How do you know you will not like something if you have never tried it?
It is not necessarily about going out for dinner either. If you are in a long term relationship or on a first date, do something completely unexpected. Go to a club if you rarely go out, take them to a concert or to a gig, have a midnight picnic…..the element of surprise and not knowing are what attracts you to a person first so to keep the spark going once you do get to know them is the most important element of a partnership. If you get into a routine with the same dinner, same food, same sex etc etc everything becomes stale and boring and your eyes do start to wander, so just be a little wild and crazy, you might just surprise yourself as to how creative you really can be!
The Single’s Guide To V Day
It is Valentines day coming up, you are single, you are seeing hearts, flowers, teddy bears in every shop window, the word ‘LOVE’ sprawled across every possible poster, sign or billboard. You have just read Cherie Bebe’s ‘Lover’s guide’ above and you feel utterly depressed, well here is my guide on how to get over the Valentines Day Blues for the Singles.
Firstly it is just one day out of 365 a year! (Leap years excluded!) How quickly does a day go normally? If you are planning a night out with the girls (because they have forced you to go out on a singles night) then do it! If you can afford it, ‘go to town’ and purchase a new outfit, if not, just put your ‘feel good’ dress/outfit and killer heels on. At least treat yourself to some new lingerie, it is the most amazing feeling in the world! Do not actually plan what you are going to do either, (I have had the best nights out when they have been completely random), stay away from your usual hotspots and instead try somewhere completely out of the ordinary. You never know you may just find your perfect Valentine!
If you are planning a single night in then it is all about pampering. Nothing says pamper me more than ‘Lush’ so treat yourself to a ‘sex bomb’ or ‘angel delight’ soap, you will feel amazing afterwards. Give yourself a manicure/pedicure/facial, get the wine and chocolates out and if you have a crush on a certain actor/actress, (and you own every film your crush has ever done) stick it on and give yourself a bit of eye candy. Stay away from the soppy love films as there is no point getting depressed about being single. Even watch your favourite comedies and just enjoy the most of your night in. End the evening in bed with a good book (I adore reading a good book as it takes over your imagination.). If you really want to treat yourself invest in the Bullet (£10 and can be purchased from Ann Summers) ;)
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