Soft Bondage
When people think of soft bondage there is an instant thought of whips, chains and masochistic role playing..
In these days of excesses, adventurous bedroom play can have a very negative press such as Sado-Masochism; however some fetishes in a relationship can be very pleasurable such as soft bondage.
When people think of soft bondage there is an instant thought of whips, chains and masochistic role playing yet this is not the case. Many well know sex shops such as Agent Provocateur, Ann Summers and Coco De Mer all sell various ties, blindfolds and hand-cuffs all items to enhance your inner soft bondage fantasies.
Trust is paramount before instigating any sort of erotic play. Once trust is instilled you can then explore the boundaries and find which limits you are comfortable with. But this is a pleasure where the anticipation can be almost as pleasurable as the gratification.
One of my favourite scenarios is when you are with your partner in a crowded room i.e out to dinner or at a party. Whilst having a generlised conversation (so there is no idea of what is about to happen) you whisper very seductively “what would you do if you had me naked?” This can be the start of a very pleasurable evening, where body language and intimations can build up to a very erotic experience.
There is nothing more off putting than a pair of plastic hand cuffs and bare electric light bulb. If you decide soft bondage is for you then you need to set the scene to enhance all the senses. Fresh bed sheets (they are always more enjoyable to mess up and feel amazing on naked skin) scented candles (Coco De Mer have a range called ‘Art Nouveau Votive’ which are perfect) and of course your favourite erotic sound track. Start with a strip tease, slow and sensual (once your partner is tied so they can see but not touch). If you are using stockings then these can be incorporated into your soft bondage game…you can also use these to tie up your partner!
The act of soft bondage itself as well as being pleasurable should also be sensual and full of surprises. For example get out a pair of hand cuffs but just as your partner is about to be submissive caress their body with silk scarves and tie them up with these instead (always keep an element of surprise). One of my favourite films to gain new ideas from is the old classic “Nine ½ weeks”. Where both characters push each others boundaries.
In any soft bondage encounter there is always a dominant partner yet sometimes role reversal can be the most exciting and new pleasures can be explored. Never get into a routine as it can become boring and loose that element of surprise. “So make sure you have your tie up tie down bag”
Cherie Bebe
